BALANCING ACT | MAJOR DONNA BOND
“…Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” (verse 42)
Think back to the days when you enjoyed carefree hours in the school playground. Do you remember the teeter-totters? I remember hearing children exclaim, “No bumpsies!”
Children would experience great delight in giving others bumps as well as holding them captive in the air. What about those who would come along and stand in the middle? Their purpose was to display control over balancing one side against the other – who would remain high off the ground and who would stay on the ground.
I have been thinking lately of the issue of maintaining balance in life. In her book, “Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World”, author, Joanna Weaver writes: “I wonder if God had teeter-totters in mind when he placed Luke’s story of Mary & Martha between two famous passages; the story of the Good Samaritan and Christ’s teaching of the Lord’s Prayer. One deals with our relationship with people, the other with our relationship with God. One teaches us how to serve the other teaches us how to pray. This passage could be called the spiritual teeter-totter, the pivotal point, which gives the secret of balancing the practical with the spiritual, duties and devotion.”
It is a real struggle to keep things in balance. Recently we had the privilege of having 17 Auxiliary Captains with us at CFOT for study. One Auxiliary Captain interviewed me and we focused on the areas in our lives that require balance. Areas such as personal time, ministry expectations and soul care need balance.
The only way to keep our lives in balance, our love for people and our love for the Lord, is to maintain our connection with the Lord.
You may have heard people state, “Where do you find the time?” “My life is out of balance!” “I want to maintain that connection with the Lord, but the day fills with other demands.”
The following story, taken from Joanna Weaver’s book, illustrates the importance of a deeper relationship that gives stability and balance to our lives.
“In the autumn of 1992 a man named Michel Plant commenced a solo crossing of the North Atlantic. An expert yachtsman, Plant had made the trip several times before. His brand-new sailboat, the Coyote, was so technologically advanced there were few like it in the world.
Plant sent off alone, leaving his support team to monitor his trip by satellite and radio. Everything was going well. Even when a storm disrupted communication, no one worried much.
After all, this guy was one of the best sailors and navigators to be found. His boat was equipped with state of the art navigational and emergency equipment. Plant would resume radio contact when everything settled down again.
But Michel Plant was never heard from again. After numerous attempts to reach him by radio the Coast Guard sent helicopters out to look for him. They found the Coyote floating upside down. Its captain and solo passenger were never found.
Why? How could this happen? The experts wondered. Everyone knows that sailboats are very hard to turn over. Their deep keels and massive rudders right themselves. But as the ship was examined, the cause of the tragedy became clear.
For all its technological advances and beauty, the Coyote didn’t have enough weight beneath the water line. There wasn’t enough ballast below to outweigh the fancy gadgetry above. And so, if flipped over, it lost its ability to balance in the water.”
If we want to live a balanced life, we must concentrate on the underpinnings of that life. Jesus did. He was in constant communion with His Father. We must do the same if we hope to have healthy balance in life.
Balance in our lives is a challenge, especially the balance of busyness and stillness. You may experience days when everything seems out of balance. There are so many areas that need attention and we tend to give them priority. The balance comes when Christ is the centre because he brings balance to our teeter tottering life.
“Being balanced is not so much a matter of staying in perfect equilibrium as it is a matter of finding the right rhythm of our lives”.
Quotes are from the book “Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World” by Joanna Weaver.
Major Donna Bond is the Director of Spiritual Formation at CFOT. Donna has always had a passion for teaching and for ten years enjoyed teaching piano lessons to children and adults. In addition, she has taken courses from Simon Fraser University in Management and Careforce Lifekeys to assist women in crises with their families.
Donna sees an Army that is healthy and growing in their relationship with the Lord and others and has an interest for pastoral care of officers and their children.
She is married to Major Eric Bond and they have three grown sons, David, Tim and Mark.